Girlfriend / boyfriend and Your friend

No matter how close you are to your friend, keep several things in mind when you introduce your girlfriend or boyfriend to him or her. First of all, whenever you introduce your girlfriend or boyfriend to your friend, don't leave him or her alone with him or her because when two opposite sexes meet each other, there is certain chemical reaction that attract them. This attraction can put you in trouble.

• Don't compliment your friend's capabilities.
• Don't leave your girlfriend or boyfriend with your friend alone and go somewhere else.
• If you are playing a game, be your girlfriend or boyfriend yourself.
• Don't make your friend of her or his partner.
• When you eat at a restaurant, both of you can eat from the same plate. Ask for a separate plate for your friend.
• When you go to watch a movie, sit in between your girlfriend or boyfriend and your friend.
• When there is an argument about anything, support your girlfriend or boyfriend instead of your friend.
• Don't let it happen that your friend's and your girlfriend's or boyfriend's views, qualities and personality are similar and yours are different from them.
• Don't praise your friend in front of your girlfriend or boyfriend, no matter how close he or she is to you.

Are You Obsessed with sex?

It has become uncommon to consider love as sex. What do you think of love? Is it love or sex?

Check for yourself whether

• you try to catch, hold, embrace or kiss your friend as soon as you she him or her.
• You try to fix your eyes to see uinderneath his or her clothes.
• You talk about going to a lonely place when you him or her.
• You watch porn videos and CDs.
• You try to excite him or her by holding or touching him or her body parts.
• You give him or her romantic and sexy books to read.
• You present him or her sexy outfits.
• You eventually end up talking about sex indirectly.
• You send sexy SMS or MMS messages.
• You don't have objection to having sex before marriage

If you say YES to the above statements, then it means you do not love your friend. You only have the desire to have sex with him or her. You are obsessed with sex.

If you say half YES  and Half NO, then you love him or her, but you want to have sex as well. So you must try to improve yourself.

If you say NO, then you are an ideal lover. Your friend will be proud of you.

Love and lust

The names of Laila-Majnu, Romeo-Juliet and several others have been written numerous number of times in stories of immortal love. If you too, wish to make your love story immortal, then try to know the difference between love and lust.

In the Oxford Dictionary, Love is defined as attraction towards the opposite sex; as spiritual bond with somebody while Lust is defined as a desire for sex and gratification.
According to psychologists, love keeps on increasing whereas lust ends as soon as it starts. There are some examples given below. You can see for yourself whether you are in love or a victim of lust.

Love is

• Talking about tender feelings. 
• Praising good qualities.
• Demonstrated by touch.
• Presenting a gift.
• Sending good SMS
• Sending ringtones and wallpaper.
• Showing respect for your friend.

Lust is

• Talking about sexuality.
• Complimenting on different parts of the body.
• Trying to cuddle or stick close to your friend.
• Presenting porno books, blue films and CDs.
• Sending Sexy clips.
• Talking about running away from Home.

When You Hate Something about Your Girlfriend / Boyfriend

Often a good-looking girlfriend or boyfriend may have several bad habits. In such circumstances, you will be in a difficult situation. So you should have extra patience and tolerance.

• If it hurts you when your girlfriend or boyfriend talks to you bitterly, then find out the cause as to why she or he behaves this way. Do you lack anything? If yes, then try to mend yourself. If her or his nature is like that, try to talk to her or him gently.
• If your girlfriend or boyfriend criticises others, then tell her or him to change the habit.
• If he or she talks while moving his or her hands, twisting the waist and winking her or his eyes, tell her or him about body language.
• Don't take anything seriously what your girlfriend or boyfriend is saying.
• Don't argue with your girlfriend or boyfriend if you don't like something about her or him.
• Ignoring the trivialities of your girlfriend or boyfriend is a sign of civilised person.

Be sensible

• Don't doubt if you really love her or him.
• Present your girlfriend or boyfriend a lovely gift on her or his birthday
• Don't put pressure on your girlfriend or boyfriend to do anything bad.
• Don't praise her beauty only. Praise her personality as well.
• Behave respectfully with her or her brothers, sisters and parents.
• Ignore small mistakes of your girlfriend or boyfriend and take it easy.
• If anybody criticises your girlfriend or boyfriend, give a straightforward reply.
• Support your girlfriend or boyfriend in every situation.
• If your girlfriend or boyfriend praises her or his friend, don't discuss it. Just ignore it. 

Never Interfere in Your Friend's Family Matters

Avoid getting into the domestic affairs or family matters of your girlfriend or boyfriend and interfere in them. It could be that your girlfriend or boyfriend will not like your interference in her or his personal problems. Because of such behaviour of yours, she or he might distance herself or himself from you. 

• Limit your interference in the family affairs of your friend to a certain extent.
• Advise your girlfriend or boyfriend when she or he asks for your advice. Whenever you advise her or him, be appropriate and reasonable.
• Let your girlfriend or boyfriend live her or his own life.
• If your girlfriend or boyfriend is in trouble, try to do your best to help.
• Encourage your girlfriend or boyfriend to face the difficulties.

When your Girlfriend is Pregnant

When emotions of love become overpowering, the desire to have sex increases. So love has become a synonym of sex, instead of being considered sacred. If this is so in your case, then it is big problem. So don't let sex come in between love.
When you have a sexual contact, there are chances that your girlfriend will become pregnant. In such circumstances, life becomes stressful. Some boys cannot tolerate such problems and so they ask their girlfriend to go for an abortion, or they go far away from their girlfriend's life. Sometimes, they even accuse her of something bad and try to get rid of her.
When your girlfriend becomes pregnant, you must keep your wits under control. You should not rush into any step that will make you repent later.

• Don't have sexual intercourse when you are alone. It will have dangerous consequences.
• To love is not to deceive. Be faithful in love. You dared to fall in love willingly, so you should have the courage to accept the challenges.
• When your girlfriend becomes pregnant, don't run away, leaving her in trouble. Only cowardly people run away like that. You both are responsible for the trouble. So you must find a solution together.
• Don't find faults with her or traumatize her. Both of you are at fault, so solve the problem together.
• Don't try to get rid of her if your girlfriend insists on getting married instead of aborting the child.
• If you marry her and accept her, your problems will be solved automatically. 
• If your family is not willing to accept her, then try to convince them. If they don't accept even after that, then oppose them strongly. Seeing your attitude, they will eventually relent.
• If you are weak financially, try to solve it with the help of your family, relatives and friends.
• Don't go for an abortion by visiting midwives, nurses or quacks. This might prove to be dangerous.
• You loved her and liked her, so accept and support her under any circumstances. Give the child in her womb the name of its father, that is, your name.

Girlfriend's / Boyfriend's Sister / Brother

Many boys consider their girlfriend's sister as their sister-in-law, which is not appropriate. The relationship between you and your girlfriend's sister is very delicate. Even a small mistake will create a split between you and your girlfriend. Your attitude towards your girlfriend's sister should be very polite and courteous. The same holds true for girls. Too much familiarity with the boyfriend's brother can breed contempt.

• Do not behave with your girlfriend's sister as your sister-in-law. Similarly a girl should not shy too much proximity to her boyfriend's brothers.
• Don't talk to your girlfriend's sister too intimately. Don't try to be too close to her. Same holds true for girls also.
• Don't assent to whatever your girlfriend's sister asks for. It may create misunderstanding.
• Do not go to movies or shopping with your girlfriend's sister separately. Similarly do not go out alone with your boyfriend's brother.
• Don't present any expensive gifts to your girlfriend's or boyfriend's brother or sister.
• It is not advisable to send her or him a greeting card or wish her or him on special days.
• Don't throw a party even if it is your girlfriend's sister's birthday or your boyfriend's brother's birthday.
• Don't praise your girlfriend's sister in front of your girlfriend or your boyfriend's brother in front of him.
• Don't buy a gift for your girlfriend's sister or for your boyfriend's brother along with other gifts for your girlfriend or boyfriend.

Friend of Your Girlfriend / Boyfriend

Misunderstanding often happen because of a girlfriend's or boyfriend's friend. As a result, a split occurs between the two lovers and the relationship between may come to an end. If your girlfriend's or boyfriend's friend is smart and good looking, then the matter will be even more serious.

• You must be cautious if your girlfriend's or boyfriend's friend is being attracted to you.
• If your girlfriend's or boyfriend's friend is drawn towards you, then check to see if you are at all trying to attract her or him.
• If she or he is attracted to you because of your personality, give full information about it to your girlfriend or boyfriend.
• Don't reject directly if your girlfriend's boyfriend's friend proposes to you. Try to avoid her or him indirectly.
• Don't discuss with your girlfriend's or boyfriend's friend, your girlfriend's or boyfriend's problem. In doing so, she or he will try to get close to you.
• Don't make any programmes to meet, to go shopping, to go on a picnic or to any other event with your girlfriend's or boyfriend's friend. This might create a misunderstanding between you and your girlfriend or boyfriend.
• If your girlfriend's or boyfriend's friend has invited to some programme, take your girlfriend or boyfriend along with you.

Publicity of Love

Boys keep advertising their love, whereas girls don't want any publicity of love. Girls don't want their love to be disgraced. On the other hand, boys make a fuss about their love.

Why they do like this?

• That there is someone who dies for them.
• That they have certain qualities because of which boys or girls are after them.
• That they have a done a big job by attracting a beautiful or a handsome boy.
• They feel good about having the publicity given to their love.

Points to remember

• As far as possible don't publicize your love.
• A girl or even a boy can get into trouble with her or his friends and relatives because of publicity.
• Boys make up stories when they see their friends's girlfriend as if she is a prostitute or whore.
• Some boys tease their friend's girlfriend saying 'Bhabhi' or something else.
• They crack sexy jokes as if she is your sister-in-law.
•  Don't speak loudly, laugh loudly, or scream in public places.
• Girls believe in hiding and the boys believe in showing their love.
• Love with your eyes. Don't utter the word in public places.
• Try to listen to her silent request in her eyes. She does not want love to be publicized.
• If you are a true lover, speak softly, so that no one hears you.

Your girlfriend / boyfriend can be your secret enemy

Times have changed. Now the girl or boy you love more than your life could turn out to be your killer.

There have been so many cases in the country in which a girl killed a boy or boy killed by a girl pretending to be her or his boyfriend or girlfriend. Cunning and crafty girls and boys easily trap naive, innocent boys and girls in their web of false love. The boys and girls are easily taken in by generous behaviour and the boys end up losing their lives.

Points to remember

• Be careful if your girlfriend or boyfriend gives more importance to your wealth than you.
• Don't make someone your girlfriend or boyfriend who goes to dance bars and is very cunning and crafty.
• Be careful of your girlfriend or boyfriend who thinks you are a lottery ticket.
• Beware, if your girlfriend or boyfriend always asks about your income and wants to see your bank passbook, payslip and your property document.
• Be careful if your girlfriend or boyfriend pretends to be in love with you, extracts money by smooth talk and even to go to bed with her or him, and blackmails you.
• Find out from your girlfriend's or boyfriend's backgrounf if her or his father. brothers, or any relative is a criminal. It could be that she or he has some purpose to come on contact with you.
• When a boyfriend begins to have an affair with another girl, his girlfriend gets deeply hurt. As a result, out of anger she kills her boyfriend.
• If you come from a rich family, take extra care to choose your girlfriend or boyfriend. Even Mafia gangsters make use of beautiful girls or young boys to trap the wealthy and kidnap them to extract money from their families.

Are you mean, stingy? (कंजूस)

Girls are expert in making the pockets of boys empty, but there are some boys who are very clever in emptying the purses of girls or vice versa. Whether your girlfriend or boyfriend comes from a wealthy family or she or he is working, it is not a good idea to make her or him bear all expenses when you go out. Girls and boys get rid of such boys and girls. Judge whether you have the following habits:

• You don't spend on food and drinks when you take your girlfriend or boyfriend to a restaurant, hotel or other places.
• When you go to a hotel or a restaurant, you happen to be the first one to place an order. And you lag behind at the time of paying the bills. 
• When you take your girlfriend or boyfriend out, you put the expenses on your girlfriend or boyfriend's or boyfriend's shoulders.
• You suggest going to the movies but you ask for advance money for the ticket from your girlfriend.
• When you take her or him on your bike or car, at the time of refuelling you often say, 'I am sorry, I forgot my credit card.'
• When your girlfriend or boyfriend is with you, you use your mobile less and use your girlfriend's or boyfriend's mobile more to make calls.
• You become very happy when your girlfriend or boyfriend gives you a gift. You sing praises for him or her, and you don't even think of presenting a gift yourself because you have to spend money on it.
• You pretend to look like a wretched or miserable creature so that he or she doesn't demand anything for which you have to pay.

Points to remember

• A girl or boy likes you, but she or he does not say anything even though you behave like a miser. This does not mean that you take advantage of her or his simplicity.
• No matter how rich your girlfriend or boyfriend is, her or his parents, brothers and sisters must be asking her or him to give an account of the expenses, She or he might even have to tell lies due to the expenses incurred on you.
• If your girlfriend or boyfriend is an employee, then many people may be dependent on her or him. If she or he spends money on you, she or he might have to cut down on other expenses.
• Mind you, If you think your girlfriend or boyfriend is your ATM card, she or he can also think you are her or his credit card and cash in on you.
• You are a man, behave like a man. Don't have fun with your girlfriend's money. Have you got it or not? At times this same condition applies to girls too. 

If your Girlfriend / Boyfriend is too materialistic

There were times when girls used to be impressed by education and personality of boys. But today, they ask about their bank balance. In practical life, a girlfriend has the right to know about her boyfriend's income or bank balance. But if the girl is too concerned about his balance sheet, then she does not love him for the sake of love, but for the sake of money. Today with many girls working, it is possible for a boy to love her for her money.

• The girl or boy who asks about your bank balance does not love you.
• To know about the financial condition of her boyfriend or girlfriend, he or she takes him or her to expensive restaurants.
• She or he asks for expensive gifts.
• She or he tried to lure her boyfriend or girlfriend excessively and praises him or her.
• She or he borrows money from the boyfriend or girlfriend, pretending to be in a miserable condition.
• her or his eyes are always on your wallet or your ATM card.

Your girlfriend or boyfriend will doubt you when you behave in these ways

• When her boyfriend or his girlfriend is having a hard time financially, she keeps a watch on her boyfriend and he on his girlfriend.
• He or she asks his girlfriend or boyfriend to pay the bill after eating at a restaurant.
• He or she uses his girlfriend's or boyfriend's credit card for petrol refuelling.
• Before buying any gift for his girlfriend or her boyfriend, he or she says, 'Not now, but will buy later.'
• If you have any such habit, watch out. Your girlfriend or boyfriend might try to find out about your financial status at such times. So mend your ways.

Why Does This Happen?

The main cause of a break-up in a love relationship is finding your choice in chaos. In your mind you have a big list of good qualities and bad qualities. It is almost not possible to find all the good qualities together. But you do fall in love even if you are attracted by one or more qualities. If any of the bad qualities of the girlfriend or boyfriend become prominent, the attraction is over and your love relationship comes to an end. 

Psychologists are of the opinion that the number of lovers who use their brains along with the hearts is dropping at a considerable rate. Psychologists also say that since love is blind, lovers do not even look at the bad qualities. Their falling in love blindly proves that love is blind.

• Fall in love with a person who gives you the guarantee to support you all your life.
• Make sure your girlfriend's or boyfriend's behaviour is not mean, becuase of which you will be humilitated in front of others.
• Staying close to each other will only let you know the likes and dislikes of each other. So dating is the best means. But remember that it should not lead to physical intimacy.
• Stay away from girls or boys who like to have physical contact before marriage.
• Don't trap anybody, pretending to be in love with him or her or other acquaintances.
• If you don't love somebody, then express it without hesitation.
• Don't make promises of getting the moon and the stars to your girlfriend. 

When You have a Break-up with Your Girlfriend / Boyfriend

After breaking up with your girlfriend or boyfriend, there is immense grief in your heart. Nothing comes to your mind as the one with whom you dreamt of living your life together, has left you. You get angry that you feel like setting fire to entire world. You get so confused that life seems to have comes to a halt. Life seems to be a burden. Every person cannot tolerate the trauma of a heart-break. Those who have a weak heart, they go crazy. Many boys and girls even go to the extent of committing suicide.

It needs courage to go ahead after a break-up. Instead of shedding tears all day long, cursing your destiny and God, one should take life under control. You must understand that it is not a film story, where one has to change roles- need to commit suicide, depending upon the nature of script. Accept break-up as a normal living thing in real life. Try to bring your life on track again. Let bygones be bygones. Accept the present realities of life.

Cause of break-up

• Lukewarm in love life.
• Advent of artificiality in love.
• Slack in income, increase in aspirations. 
• Lack of mutual understanding.
• Entrance of 'she'/'he' in between we/us and you.

Essential tips

• Don't waste time shedding tears day and night. 
• Console yourself by saying that if she or he can stay without me, why cannot I?
• Just because somebody goes away from your life, the world does not come to an end.
• Let bygones be bygones. Whatever has happened, it is over and done with.
• Relieve your heart by telling your tale to any intimate friend of yours.
• Don't try to bring back your girlfriend or boyfriend who has left.
• Don't be miserable and woebegone and go showing your pain to others.
• Don't discuss your broken-up love life with your family, friends and relatives. And also, don't let them discuss it.
• Don't be careless about your health. Otherwise, you will fall into a deep pit of depression and frustration.
• Don't take drugs or resort to alcoholism or prostitution to forget your girlfriend or boyfriend.
• Get rid of the memories of your ex-girlfriend or former boyfriend by destroying her or his love letters, gifts and photos.
• Don't plan to do any harm or take revenge on your boyfriend or girlfriend.
• Don't get into the rut/delusion of astrology, palmistry and black magic by spending your valuable money which you have earned or given by parents.
• Take a break and go on a tour, away from your city.
• Begin searching for a new girlfriend or boyfriend saying that if one goes away, there is another in the line. 
• You will get lots of opportunities to win love. You just have to step ahead once again. There must be somebody or other waiting for you.

When You are Unsuccessful in Love

incidents in love

1. Jason was an unsuccessful lover. The girl he was in love with, didn't love him. Then what? He resorted to sleeping pills as he became unsuccessful in love and considered life to be disappointment and misery.
2. Another incident is of Lara who lands up in hospital in a serious condition. Despite all the efforts, the doctors cannot save her. She had committed suicide by taking poison. From the letter written by her, found in her room, it could be inferred that Lara was in love with a boy named James. James got married to somebody else. Lara couldn't live without James, so she committed suicide.
3. The third incident is of Angel's murder at Paris in France. The Murder John Cobain liked Angel Fox. He used to love her. But Angel didn't want to get into any kind of relationship with him. Then what? Unsuccessful as he was in love, John Cobain entered the examination hall during an exam and threw acid on Angel.
4. In the fourth incident, Mahesh loved Deepali. Here Deepali had been avoiding Mahesh for some days, because she was going to be married soon. Mahesh could not tolerate Deepali avoiding him like that and that she was going to be married to somebody else. As soon as he got an opportunity along with his friends, he raped Deepali. Deepali died as she could not bear the humiliation. 
5. The fifth incident is about a factor worker in Mumbai, named Param, who wanted to achieve his beloved's love but something was preventing him. He made up his mind to get his beloved by any means. In an attempt to do so, he kind five innocent people along with the owner. Today, he is spending his life behind bars.

We see such incidents every day. The gist of the above incidents is that you end up taking wrong decisions if you are unsuccessful in love. It is a natural phenomenon that sexual attraction draws a boy and girl close to each other. If love becomes unsuccessful, then it gives rise to wrong and negative activities (murder, suicide, alcohol consumption, rape, drugs, profanity, etc.) and that brings disgrace upon oneself and the society.

Let's analyse the first incident:

The love between Jason and his girlfriend was one-sided as the girl didn't love him. So there is no question of being successful or unsuccessful. Although Jason was a good person, he was frustrated because of the thoughts that came into his mind - Am I so bad that nobody loves me? Can't I Love? Don't I have a good personality? As he was frustrated with all these things, he took to drinking alcohol. But, instead of blaming himself, he blames his so-called girlfriend. If Jason had wanted, he could have become her friend, mate or companion. Was it essential for Jason to get her as his girlfriend?

In the second Incident:

Lara considered her boyfriend unfaithful. If your boyfriend marries another person, why call him unfaithful? Was it necessary to marry only her boyfriend? Lara didn't think of the boyfriend who she loved so much, before committing suicide. If she had thought properly, she would not have committed suicide. He must have had some obligation. Would it have been right to destroy the hopes of his parents? Should he have eloped with Lara and got married somewhere?

The last incidents are painful.

Angel Fox's murderer, John Cobain never loved Angel at all. That's why he did not think before killing his girlfriend. Behind Angel's murder the only intention was : "If you cannot be mine, you cannot be anybody else's."

John did not try to find out the cause of the love relationship. If John had known, he would have earned Angel's love by mending his ways, What did John get after killing her? Similarly Param did not get love either even after killing five people. He is behind bars today and suffering his punishment.

If you take a look at history, you can find several unsuccessful lovers as examples. Although they suffered frustrations in their personal lives, they become famous by their achievements.

1. The great leader, Napoleon Bonaparte loved his beloved Josephine wholeheartedly, but he couldn't win her love. 
   
2. A German poet, Gert, loved a beautiful girl Charlet, but Gert's love was unsuccessful in making any deep impression on Charlet. As Charlet didn't pay any attention to his love, he disappeared and slipped away quietly informing Charlet.
3. Nobel Prize winner, Rabindranath Tagore loved a 17-year old girl Anna, but he could not achieve her love. He named his love Nalini. He wrote a play by the same name, which became very popular. He immortalised his love by doing so.
   

• The unsuccessful should try to find out the cause of being rejected. 
• If your love is one sided, don't be serious. Try to propose another person similar in looks, behaviour and stature.
• Don't just go after good looks, because several other guys or girls will also be dying for the girl or boy.
• Before proposing to any girl or boy, consider your complexion, behaviour, status, and personality so that your request will not go waste.
• If you are unsuccessful in love, you should muster enough courage and face the realities.
• Don't thrust yourself in the world of sorrows and loneliness considering that it is your fate to be unsuccessful in love.
• if the injury is new, it hurts. But if you apply medicine, it heals fast.
• Sometimes the injury leaves its mark and sometimes nothing remains.
• Don't think about taking revenge if you are unsuccessful in love. Don't try to destroy her or him. If you do so, it would be a war of revenge, not love.
• Just as there is a new day after every night, it could be that you are going to get a far better lover than the present one.

Lying Girlfriend / Boyfriend

Many girls and boys have the habit of telling lies. They tell lies to other friends. But true lovers do not tell lies to each other.

Telling lies is a mental disease. A person suffering from this disease makes an imaginary picture of some person. He or she used to this habit. According to psychologists, telling lies is a mental disease called mythomania. You recognise a person from the body language. He or she has to face a lot of problems because of telling lies. Telling lies creates a lot of problems so we must be aware of such girls and boys.

• If you come to know that the girlfriend or boyfriend tells lies, then try to convince her or him that it is not a good idea. If she or he doesn't mend her or his ways then it would be better if he or she is kept quiet.
• Judge your girlfriend's or boyfriends' behaviour and gestures in order to find if she or he tells lies.
• Your girlfriend or boyfriend thinks of himself or herself as a hi-fi person and exaggerates everything.

Don't rush to get rid of your lying girlfriend or boyfriend.

When Somebody Else's Girlfriend / Boyfriend Seems Nice?

Often, others' girlfriends seem nice to most youngsters, even through they may have smart and beautiful girlfriends. In such situations, boys attract to others' girlfriends even though they have their own girlfriend. Why do boys behave like this?

Every youngster has a dream about his girlfriend. His girlfriend would be like this, or she would be like that. Of he doesn't find these qualities in his girlfriend, he begins to look at others' girlfriends. BEAUTY ATTRACT EVERYBODY.

Boys try to attract any girl who is more beautiful than their girlfriend. The same is true for your boyfriend's friends. You seem attracted to them if they are better in any way than your boyfriend.

• Some boys and girls have the habit of behaving abnormally when they see a girl or a boy. Sometimes they even forget that they have a girlfriend or boyfriend.
• When a boy or girl gets bored with a girlfriend or boyfriend, he or she gets drawn towards others' girlfriend or boyfriend.
• Until somebody gets what he or she wants, he or she is interested in that thing. Once he or she gets that thing, the charm vanishes, After achieving a girlfriend or boyfriend, boys and girls do not have so much of attachment to their girlfriend or boyfriend as they did before. So they start getting attracted to to others' girlfriend or boyfriend.
• If the girlfriend or boyfriend is lavish in expenditure, arrogant and insults others, then these are minus points that drive a boy or girl away from their girlfriend or boyfriend.
• Their attention is more towards others' girlfriend or boyfriend instead of their own.
• Stay away from attractions. You must be committed to one person.
• If your love is true, then you should not pay attention to others' girlfriends or boyfriends.
• If You notice any weakness in your girlfriend or boyfriend, you should try to correct it.

Avoid Excess in Love

Excess of everything is bad. Whether it is sports, entertainment, fun, bunking school or figure consciousness, doing anything in excess is considered a mental disease. So avoid extremes even in the matter of love.

• You love your girlfriend or boyfriend very much. Don't tell her or him 100 times that you love her or him. She or he will not like it at all. 
• Some boys have the habit of reaching the venue of the meeting much later than the given time. For example, if the scheduled time is 2 o' clock, you go there at 8 o'clock. When your girlfriend reaches there at the scheduled time, you shout at her. And you complain that you have been waiting since morning. "Why have you been so long?"
• Don't repeatedly give your girlfriend or boyfriend expensive gifts. She or he may make a wrong judgement about you.
• Don't disturb your girlfriend or boyfriend and others by going to her or his house or calling her or him again and again.
• Don't try to set a world record by sending 'I Love You' repeatedly on his or her mobile.
• Don't keep your girlfriend or boyfriend till late at night. No parents will like their daughter or son remain out till late at night.
• Don't tell your girlfriend or boyfriend to take care of her or his figure again and again. Don't make a lot of fuss about eating by telling not to eat this and not eat that. This will hurt her or him very much.
• Don't insist on going on a long drive again and again.
• Don't keep on nagging your girlfriend or boyfriend again and again. If you do so, she or he may say goodbye to you.
• Be on time wherever you have arranged to meet your girlfriend or boyfriend. If you get delayed or don't make it by any chance, send her or him an SMS and let her or him know about it.

Love is not a Bed of Roses

Love is life. Smiling and crying are part and parcel of life. Love make one laugh and also make one cry. If you live somebody, don't take it for granted that you will get love lifelong. You may get pain and suffering too. A renowned philosopher, Belle says the sweetest and bitterest pain in life is love.

After achieving love, lovers take the flight to the land of fantasy. When love ceases to give company, the plane of fantasy crashes all of a sudden with a thud. Some boys and girls cannot tolerate the pain of separation from love. They go crazy and wander around, heart-broken. They even think of committing suicide. Some become Shirin or Farhad and turn to alcoholism.

• If you love is true, then keep in mind that love can make you laugh as well as cry.
• "Oh, I will die if I don't marry you. I will remain a bachelor all my life." Saying such childish things are not appropriate.
• Don't think of committing suicide if your girlfriend or boyfriend is offended. Only those who are weak think of doing so.
• If your girlfriend or boyfriend get married to somebody else, don't take it badly. Console yourself by saying that she or he must had some problem.
• Sacrifice yourself in love and be an example for others.
• It is not necessary that your girlfriend or boyfriend will surely be yours. It is possible that she or he will change according to the times.
• While walking the path of love, don't just think about pizzas and burgers. Have a taste of tea and golgappe as well sometimes.

Unfaithful Lover

Gone are the days when a girlfriend or boyfriend used to be devoted to her boyfriend or girlfriend. For some women and men even the concept of love has changed. It has become a fashion to make boyfriends and girlfriends. They change their friends as soon they see a care instead of bike, and a huge bank balance instead of car. It is better to die than to slog for such a girlfriend or boyfriend. You have to be practical about such things. 

• When you are certain that your girlfriend or boyfriend is beginning to have an affair with somebody else, talk to her or him about it frankly.
• Do not go out of control when see your girlfriend or boyfriend with somebody else. First of all, try to find out who he or she is and what is their relationship.
• If your girlfriend or boyfriend says he is her or his cousin, then don't say anything, If she or he meets the cousin very often, then try to find out the truth of the relationship. 
• If your girlfriend or boyfriend says she or he is just her friend, don't say anything to her or him in front of her or him. After he or she goes away, you tell him or her outright that you don't approve of meeting somebody else like this. You will be able to see her or his reaction to this.
• Even after your objections, she or he keeps meeting that boy or girl, take it for granted that you are going to be sidelined.
• When you feel that your love relationship is going to break then try to find a solution to the problem with your girlfriend or boyfriend. For that you can even include her or his new friend.
• Make your friend realise that you are more worthy than the other guy or girl.
• See if your girlfriend or boyfriend has the habit of flirting with others. If she or he behaves flirtatiously, then it will be difficult for you to change her or him. It would be better you changed your path.
• It is not right to scold, scream or howl at your girlfriend or boyfriend.
• Don't scold her or his new friend in front of your girlfriend of your girlfriend or boyfriend. It would sound uncouth and people will laugh at you.
• Tell her or his new boyfriend or girlfriend about your relationship in detail, so that he or she would know that the girl or boy who he or she is love with was somebody's before.
• It is not appropriate to spend your life brooding over your unfaithful girlfriend or boyfriend. You should go ahead by facing the realities with courage.
• Don't think of committing suicide for your unfaithful girlfriend or boyfriend and forget your parents and siblings. In doing so, your family will be in pain and they will not bear the disgrace.

Love and Unfaithfulness

Unfaithfulness is such a word that lovers are scared to think of it. Getting in a frenzy due to unfaithfulness, several lovers become wild and kill their girlfriends. They even resort to blackmailing them, so much that they even commit suicide. 

• First of all, love and unfaithfulness are two faces of the same coin, so don't take it so seriously.
• If your love is true, then you should have the courage to bear unfaithfulness.
• If your girlfriend or boyfriend is unfaithful or deceives you, then consider that he or she must had some valid reason behind it.
• Because of family pressure, sometimes your girlfriend or boyfriend may begin to distance herself or himself, so try to understand her or his problem.
• Your girlfriend or boyfriend will dump you if you neglect your future plan, career or ambition.
• Your girlfriend or boyfriend will detach herself or himself from you if your ideas and behaviour do not match.
• If you seduce your girlfriend or boyfriend to have physical relationship with you or put pressure on her or him to do something wrong, she or he might like to stay away from you.

Watch out!

Many boys or girls begin to go around with other girls or boys in order to get close to their girlfriends or boyfriends. Instead of teasing or making her or him jealous by being friendly with others, try to take notice of the following:

• Remember, you cannot force somebody to love you and also cannot get somebody's love by force.
• In order to tease your girlfriend or boyfriend or make him or her jealous, do not make friends with other girls or boys. This will hurt her or him very much.
• Try to find out why your girlfriend or boyfriend has gone far from you. After knowing the reason, try to find a solution.

Love Meditation

'Have you ever been in love with someone'?

'Yes, I have.''I have been in love too.'Have you ever done Love-o-ditation?;What is love-o-ditation ?

A famous German scientist, Shark Nicholic says that love-o-ditation is a kind of meditation. Every lover should do this. It is a meditation and exercise for all lovers. This increases the positive power of love within them. The energy of love multiplies immensely.

• You don't need to spare a long time over this.
• Close your eyes and think about your girlfriend or boyfriend and bring his or her picture in mind.
• Keep your girlfriend's or boyfriend's picture in mind three to four times.
• If the picture of your friend or boyfriend does not get formed, don't panic. It happens so initially. Gradually you will find improvement in this.
• Don't bring negative thoughts into your mind while meditating on your girlfriend  or boyfriend.
• Repeat your promise that you will accept her or him in all circumstances.
• You can even talk to your girlfriend or boyfriend while meditating. This will give practice and courage of talking to her or him.
• Love-o-ditation increases the emotions of live in the girl or boy. You get enough love energy.
• You will find yourself quite close your girlfriend or boyfriend.
• Love-o-ditation makes your face radiant and your heart filled with enthusiasm. The entire body get stimulated. It gives a different kind of excitement to the entire body. 
• Love-o-ditation makes your love profound. You get ample power.

When Somebody Cheats on You in Love

It's surprising that in times of MTV culture, boys get deceived by their girlfriends and vice versa. It hurts you to find out that the person who you dearly loved has deceived you.

• Before falling in love, try to collect full information on your girlfriend or boyfriend.
• Many girls trap boys or boys trap girls in their net and into a relationship. They even secretly photograph their romantic activities and blackmail them later.
• If your girlfriend or boyfriend deceives you, then try to forget her or him. Be thankful that it was good that you came to know of it before it was too late. Otherwise, she or he would have continued to deceiving you all your life.

How to Please Your Offended Girlfriend/Boyfriend

Sulking and pleasing are part and parcel of every love relationship. A misunderstanding is developed between two lovers over a small matter. If this problem is not nipped in the bud, a breach occurs in the relationship.
 When a boyfriend is offended, she pleases him easily by uttering three words, "I am sorry". But it is difficult for a boy to say sorry because there is a man inside him. If one sees correctly, it is a small matter to soothe an offended person. According to a famous Arab story writer, Kahlil Gibran, "It's human weakness to make mistakes and to forgive is a human virtue. When they balance, there exists love,"

• Then what's the point in taking anything so seriously?
• Don't take other's help to please your offended girlfriend or boyfriend.
• Ask the cause of her or his anger or annoyance.
• Give your explanation in front of him or her. Don't send it in the form of a message.
• Don't hesitate to say, "I am sorry", "I made a mistake", "Are you offended with me?" "And such a big punishment for such a small thing?". These words will move the heart of your girlfriend or boyfriend.
• You can please your offended girlfriend or boyfriend by sending a lovely message from your mobile.
• You can get rid of his or her misunderstanding by sending an e-mail or a greeting card.
• You can even present a chocolate bar, perfume, a make-up box, and gently talk to your girlfriend and if your boyfriend is offended, persuade him to go out with you to watch a movie or on a picnic.

Also take care of these things

• Humiliating each other increases the distance between two lovers and offends both.
• If you demand to have sex, she may be offended or vice versa. This can even lead to a break-up of the relationship.
• Also, make sure that the girlfriend or boyfriend is not pretending to be offended or just playing with your feelings in order to fulfill his or her wishes. 

When a Girl or Boy is after You

Sometimes the situation gets really tough when a girl or boy is after you to make you her boyfriend or girlfriend and you don't like that person. It is difficult to get rid of such a girl or boy. If you are trapped in such a situation, then you don't need to panic, or lose your cool, or compromise and became a scapegoat. You can get rid of this trouble by using a little bit of wisdom.

• If you are hounded by any girl or boy, don't lose your cool. Try to solve the problem.
• First of all, find out why she or he is attracted to you. Find out the reason and try to change your behaviour. 
• It could be that she or he is under a false impression that you love her or him. If that is so, try to remove her or his mistaken belief.
• If the girl or boy is of tender age, tell her or him about the high and low, good and bad of social life. Tell her or him to pay attention to studies, rather than fall in love blindly.
• In order to get rid of the girl or boy chasing you, send a message telling her or him that you don't like her or him and you are not interested in her or him, and that you are already in love with someone else.
• You can talk to her or his family and your family about it.
• Don't delay in getting rid of the girl or the boy. As the days pass by, love for you will keep on increasing.
• Try to avoid her or him somehow of she or he wants to come to you.
• Don't try to talk to her or him or meet her or him. If possible don't respond properly to what she or he says.
• Don't promise her or him anything even by mistake. Also, don't look down on her or him or criticize her or him in front of others.
• Discourage her or him straight away if she or he tries to get closer to you.

Trapping Girl / Boy is not Ethical

Some boys and even girls cast such an impression on girls or boys that they get trapped in their snares. After having enough fun with a girl or boy, they look for another girl or boy. Trapping girls or boys and playing with their lives is not at all a good idea. It should not be done.

• Adopt a positive attitude towards the girl or body you wish to make your girlfriend or boyfriend.
• Don't play with the emotions and body of the girl or boy after they fall in love with you.
• If seeing any girl or boy turns you on, then you only have the body of the girl or boy.
• to trifle with the emotions of others can be dangerous. It can be fatal.
• Those who are professional deceivers they try to trap girls and boys from rich and affluent families. They have fun with them by extracting money from them. 

Avoid Making Such Girlfriends / Boyfriends

Many agencies in the country have begun to attract youngsters towards themselves. These agencies, that operate all over the country, are running rackets in the name of providing open friendship to young boys and girls.

If you notice the language used in advertisement, you will understand the matter and the truth will be out. At one place it is written - "You are looking for an open-minded person." At another place it says - "Find a friend of your choice. If you don't find, there is money-back guarantee."

You can easily figure out the agencies which are promoting flesh trade in the name of friendship. Don't get in the rut of making such girlfriends, because they will ruin you financially, physically and emotionally.

• Beware of such a business of friendship.
• A friendship bought is of no use. It will remain limited to the money.
• Talking to girls or boys on the phone is also a kind of a mental disease called eschatologia.Once you become addicted to it, you cannot get out of it. If you are not careful, you can also be a victim of blackmailing.
• Girls willing to be friends with you in an advertisement are no good. It is a kind of flesh trade.
• There are several sites on the Internet that cater to online dating.
• Dating messages have begun to come on the mobile as well. You must avoid such dating.
• Nowadays agencies are giving a new twist to dating by naming it as fast dating. They arrange a place for the meeting of a boy and a girl and they charge them highly for it. 
• In the name of dating, these agencies provide girls to boys. They extract a high amount of money from the boys. In return for your money, you can do anything with the girl.
• On Internet, bio-data and photos of many girls are readily available. Those girls are ready to become friends with anybody. The girls look beautiful, but they are cunning. They extract money for their body as well as the time spent.

Male or Female Colleague

In the course of day-to-day work, colleagues get to know each other well. It is not strange for two staff members to get close because of some official work and their association often develops into an emotional relationship. This continues to be alright till the management comes to know about it. When the fact is revealed, then a strange situation occurs. Sometimes, it gets to a stage where colleagues lose their job. So when your colleague is your girlfriend or boyfriend, it is essential to pat attention to certain things.

• If you have a colleague girlfriend or boyfriend, who is not always in a romantic mood, you should behave normally. Your attention should be on your work.
• Don't spend most of the time talking to your girlfriend or boyfriend or hanging around near her or his seat.
• Don't behave as lovers. Behave as normal colleagues.
• Don't remain stuck to the intercom or telephone.
• Don't hug or stick close to each other near the bathroom, corridor, steps and lift.
• Don't waste your time and others' by talking about yourself and your love.
• Don't go to movies with your girlfriend or boyfriend without informing. This would offend the management.
• Don't joke, tease, make fun or talk about your personal problems during office hours.
• Try to find a job for yourself and for your girlfriend or boyfriend in another company seriously.
• Do not forget the decorum of the office by drowning yourself in love. Discharge your duties well.
• If you make a girl your girlfriend or boy your boyfriend, it is possible that some other staff who is trying to attract him or her toward himself or herself will offended with you. In such situations, beware of the other staff members. They might provoke the management against you.
• Mind you, there are many cunning girlfriends or boyfriends who make their friends to achieve their selfish motives. After their work is done, they ditch the boyfriend or girlfriend just as a housefly is picked up from the milk and thrown.
• Do not quarrel with any staff member in order to impress your girlfriend or boyfriend.
• Do not forget to respect your seniors in order to make a good impression.
• Don't address your girlfriend or boyfriend as 'Darling', 'Sweety', 'My heart,' etc. in the office.
• Share your talks with other staff members as well. Be in tune with them.
• Do not find a pretext of going to your boyfriend's or girlfriend's seat and do not insist his or her hanging near you. 
• If your girlfriend or boyfriend ignore you in office, instead of getting  angry, try to understand her or him.
• If your girlfriend or boyfriend is the boss of your office, don't try to dominate other staff members.
• Do not doubt about your girlfriend or boyfriend if she or he is friendly with other colleagues or nurture ill will against those staff members.
• If the management tells you to remain away from your girlfriend or boyfriend, then protest against it because they don't have any right to complain against the mutual relationship between two adults.

While Talking to Your Girlfriend / Boyfriend

Pay special attention to your voice and your choice and your choice of words while talking to your girlfriend or boyfriend.

• Don't shout at the top of your voice.
• Don't say anything without thinking.
• Do not speak by sprinkling spit.
• Don't tell lies about yourself and your family.
• Don't use obscene and foul words while talking to your girlfriend or boyfriend.
•  Don't make fun of your girlfriend or boyfriend about anything.
• Don't burst into laughter while talking.
• Don't speak intimately in the first meeting. Don't be rude or too close to her or him.
• Don't just keep on talking about yourself. Let her or him speak too and listen attentively.
• Don't walk in the middle of the road when you are with your girlfriend or boyfriend.
• Do not claim what you say is right, best and appropriate.
• Do not utter anything bad by losing your temper with your girlfriend or boyfriend. Keep yourself cool and go ahead.
• Do not try to subdue your girlfriend or boyfriend while talking to her or him.
• Do not interrupt while your girlfriend or boyfriend is speaking. Joke with your friend lightly. Do not say anything that might her or him.
• Don't get carried away by anything that your girlfriend or boyfriend says. Disagree diplomatically if you need to.

Learn to Praise Your Girlfriend / Boyfriend

According to psychologists, girls like to hear praise form their boyfriends. Same is the case with boys. A fashion designer, Sunanda Seth says that it is good to hear your boyfriend praise you, because it fills the mind with a renewed happiness, enthusiasm  and excitement. 

A film story-writer, Rama says, "I feel great when I hear my boyfriend praise me. It fills me with enthusiasm." So don't be stingy in praising your boyfriend or girlfriend.

THE ELEGANCE OF TIME:

Pay attention to your girlfriend's or boyfriend's state of mind while praising him or her. Don't praise in a romantic way in front of his or her family members, office colleagues and friends.

PRAISE AND BOREDOM:

It bores one to hear praise in the same manner again and again. For example, if you say, 'You are beautiful' again and again, then it becomes a very ordinary thing. Use new words, phrases and sentence to praise your girlfriend or your boyfriend.

PRAISE MUST NOT BE DRAMATIC AND INSINCERE:

Yes, keep in mind that your praise should not sound dramatic and insincere. The words of praise should be from the bottom of your heart. Praising somebody as if you are making a speech would be considered dramatic and a pretence.

DON'T PRAISE BY COMPARING: 

Don't compare your girlfriend or boyfriend with anybody. She or h will be hurt if you do so.

NATURAL STATE OF YOUR FACE:

Take care of your facial expression while praising your girlfriend or boyfriend. You must take care of the body language so that it doesn't seem artificial.

FALSE PRAISE:

Sometimes you need to make false praise. You must be extra careful in doing this, otherwise your move will backfire. Have you followed it?

ON THE PHONE OR MOBILE:

Times have changed. You can lavishly praise your girlfriend or boyfriend through SMS and Net chatting.

Your Girlfriend/boyfriend is not Your Private Property

Some youth the habit of treating their girlfriend or boyfriend as their private property. Then try to thrust their likes or dislikes, especially those people who are dominating nature. They always try to control others. Later on they get left alone and become lonely.

To get rid of this problem, give up insistence or habit of saying that whatever you want must be done. Your girlfriend or boyfriend is, of course, yours but let her or him live ones own life. Don't try to exercise force and subdue her or him. Seeing that you behave like Hitler, she or he might be scared off.

• Do not thrust your likes or dislikes on your friend.
• Don't misunderstand when your girlfriend or boyfriend talks to your friend laughingly.
• Don't keep on singing your own time. Listen to what your girlfriend or boyfriend has to say as well.
• Don't humiliate your girlfriend or boyfriend by calling her or him stupid, dull, dirty, etc.
• Don't fight if somebody accidentally bumps into your girlfriend or boyfriend or touches him or her.
• Don't interfere in his or her choice about food, dress, and other things.
• Don't share his or her happiness only; share his or her sorrows as well.
• If you do not like anything about your girlfriend or boyfriend, do not say it in front of everybody. Convince him or her when he or she is alone, but don't shout at him or her or scold him or her. Make everything clear through patience and love.
• Don't pinch, touch, kiss and play with your friend's body parts. They are not your private property.
• Some girls and boys do not like people who hold hands, pull braids, pat cheeks, etc.
• Don't say in front of others that whatever you say, your girlfriend or boyfriend will willingly accept.
• Don't bet with your girlfriend or boyfriend in order to make her or him agree about anything.

Don't Put Your Career at Stake for Your Girlfriend or Boyfriend

After falling in love, many boys put their career at stake. Instead of doing a full-time job, they indulge in full-time love. They spend all their time going to beaches or to restaurants or some other places. The significance of love is in its own place. There's nothing wrong in falling in love, but it is not a good idea to spoil your career for the sake of your girlfriend or boyfriend.

• Remember you can make your life if you have a career. Falling in love is only a part of life.
• It is stupidity to go after your girlfriend or boyfriend, leaving behind your job. 
• Don't let your girlfriend or boyfriend spoil your career. This might spoil your life.
• Don't make it your ambition only to please your girlfriend or boyfriend.

"I will forget the world in your love," is a good thought to have, but don't forget your career. 

•  Don't waste your time over your girlfriend or boyfriend if you are taking part in any competition or examination.
• If you are well established in your career, your girlfriend or boyfriend will like you. If you destroy your career, she or he will leave you.
• Don't go running to your girlfriend or boyfriend if you miss her or him. Try to control yourself.

Solutions

• Don't spend the entire day with your girlfriend or boyfriend. Decide a particular time and place to meet each other.
• If there is no time, talk on the phone or mobile and adjust yourself.
• You can spend most of the time with your girlfriend or boyfriend on the weekends.
• If you miss your girlfriend or boyfriend, sprinkle water on your face. Go out for a walk.
• To divert your attention, listen to music, read a novel, or a story, or watch a movie.
• Always remember, if you have a job, you will have a girlfriend or boyfriend. If you don't, you will not have one.
• Write, in big letters, on the wall of your study room, sentences like - "I want to be something in life", "I have to concentrate on my career?" etc. By doing so, your eyes will see these sentences again and again and you will not be distracted in life.

Quiet Girlfriend/ Boyfriend

It is by nature that some people remain quiet. Those who keep quiet believe in the language of the eyes. They do not speak out what is in their heart but they say it all. If you want to make a girlfriend or boyfriend who happens to be quiet, then you should know a few things.

• When you propose to such a girl or boy, you will not understand her or him even if you get a reply.
• You fall a victim to depression if you fail to understand the feelings of such a girlfriend or boyfriend.
• There are some girls or boys who want boys or girls to hover around them, so they keep quiet. You must judge such types of girls or boys well.
• Know one thing more-you cannot share your thoughts, feelings, etc. fully with such types of girls or boys.
• To bring profoundness in your love, you must use words.
• Without words, you cannot make decisions about your future.

For your information

• Try to find out why your girlfriend or boyfriend is so quiet.
• It could be her or his nature since childhood or she or he may be trying to entice you on the pretext of it.
• It could be that somebody had attempted to rape her or in fact raped her. If she is victim of such a tradegy, try to console her.
• According to psychologists, it is a mental disease if a person keeps quiet. You can take your girlfriend or boyfriend to some psychiatrist.
• Try to know about his or her past. It could be that he or she has been thinking of some past incident because of which she or he is so quiet.
• Inquire about his or her family. It could be that because of his or her family circumstances that he or she is quiet. For instance, his or her mother has divorced her or his father; his or her father is a drunkard; his or her financial condition is bad; there has been a bereavement in the family, etc.
• Her ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend may have deceived him or her, because of whom, he or she is frustrated and sad.
• It could be that he or she wants his girlfriend or her girlfriend to hover around him or her and he or she is having fun, and he or she may be satisfied with what he or she is.

Take steps carefully

• First of all try to find out what she or he wants of you.
• If you don't get a satisfactory answer about this, it is better to say goodbye to such a person.
• It is better to change the path instead of being a victim of depression caused by the question - does he or she love me or not?

How to share your feelings with such a Girlfriend or Boyfriend

• When you meet your quiet girlfriend or boyfriend, always talk frankly about your thoughts and feelings.
• You can share your thoughts through SMS, MMS, phone or social networking.
• Try to change the environment by taking him or her to another city. If you keep trying, her or his behaviour will certainly change.
• Always speak in a romantic mood. Watch romantic movies with her or him and discuss romantic topics with her or him.

Caution

• Do not insist on an answer to every question.
• Do not argue about any topic with your girlfriend or boyfriend.
• Do not remain quiet with your quiet girlfriend or boyfriend, else there would be no one to break the ice.

Don't Pay Highly for a Joke

When lovers speak to each other, they talk about different types of things. They crack jokes as well. Sometimes the joke is taken wrongly. A small joke can increase the distance between two lovers. Everybody does not have the ability to understand the meaning of these words spoken in jest. They misunderstand the meaning of these words. If your girlfriend or boyfriend takes jokes seriously, do not crack jokes with him or her. There are so many other topics to include in your conversation. Talk about those things that your girlfriend or boyfriend likes.

• Before saying anything, think carefully as to whether your friend will understand the words that you are about to utter.
• If she or he feels bad because of what you have said, then try to make it clear there and then. Don't let your friend go without getting the problem solved.
• If your girlfriend or boyfriend jokes, take it normally. If jokes taken seriously, then there would be a crack in the relationship.
• Don't spoil your relationship by getting offended when your girlfriend or boyfriend jokes at you. Instead, laugh it off and avoid it.

Don't do like This

Many youth and girls misunderstand the meaning of dating. They think that if the girl or boy has come for dating, they can have physical contacts. Do not associate dating with sex. Dating is meant for understanding and judging each other. Pay attention to your personality when you are on a date. Even a small mistake may drive your friend away from you.

• Do not force your friend to have a physical relationship.
• Do not insist if he or she refuses.
• Choose a public place or where there is a ticked system for dating.
• Try to know about each other's hobbies and interests.
• Do not go to a deserted place for dating.
• It is not advisable to speak loudly, burst into laughter, talk about sexual items, narrate sexy and raunchy jokes and boast too much. Talk gently and politely.
• Do not make your friend tense by telling about your problems.
• If your friend is anxious or worried, try to your best to solve his or her problem.
• Don't give expensive gifts during the starting days of dating.
• Do not talk about anything that might put mental pressure on your friend.
• Do not talk ambiguously and do speak indirectly.
• Be confident, but do not be overconfident.
• Present yourself with your best sex appeal.

WHAT NOT TO SAY

• Never say to your friend that Jessica is cute and you want to hug her or that Brad Pitt is handsome.
• He or she looks like a monkey in his or her new hairstyle.
• When he or she sings in a romantic mood. do not say that he or she sings off-tune.
• You feel like singing on a date with other girls or boys.
• That your friend has an ego problem.
• How caring and emotional the other girl or boy is!
• He or she sits awkwardly on the bike.
• The perfume or deodorant he or she has used is of low quality.
• People in office find him or her very strange.
• He or she is irritating, stubborn, talkative and over-smart.
• Many boys or girls have proposed to you before.
• Even now many boys or girls propose to you.
• You are very different from the boy or girl you like.
• His or her family never liked him or her.
• Friends like you are suitable just for time pass.
• He or she fells jealous on speaking to other boys or girls.
• He or she was happier with his ex-friend.
• You are dull in front of his or her ex-friend.
• You don't know how to apply make-up or to dress properly. Your hairstyle does not suit you at all.
• You don't have any dress sense and the colour choice is atrocious.
• Your manner of speaking is rude, sexy or like that of Lalita Pawar.
• Your wink flirtatiously as if you are hinting to go to bed.
• You look like an ostrich in high heels or a three-piece suit.
• You move your hand as if you are a call-girl or a man of loose character.
• Thank God, I fell in love with you, otherwise, who would have cared for you?
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'Crush' Lovers

During teenage, if a boy or girl secretly looks out of the window and forgets to have the meals, sleep, wake up, studies, remains detached, and is always looking for somebody, then consider that he or she is a victim of 'crush'. All these are symptoms of having a 'crush' on somebody.

A victim of 'crush' does not come in front in order to please the person he or she loves. He or she writes letter but reads them to himself or herself and then tears it; or types e-mails, but instead of sending them, he or she delete them.

According to psychologists, a teenager may have a crush on anybody. He or she starts loving a boy or girl either much too older than him or her or much too younger to him or her. Sometimes he or she even begins to love his or her class/school teacher. He or she writes love letters but does not send them. 

A 'crush' lover can be called as a kind of one-sided lover. A one-sided lover tends to be crazy. He or she can do anything in order to achieve his or her love, but 'crush' lovers do not express their love at all.

Things to do for a crush lover

• Don't have the desire to fall in love with aged men or girls. Fall in love with a boy or girl of your age.
• Instead of loving someone in your mind, try to propose to him or her. Perhaps you'd be lucky to have his or her love.
• Give information about the boy or girl you admire to your friends. It may so happen that he or she will come to know about your love through them.
• Don't give up studying for the sake of love. First GIVE PRIORITY TO EDUCATION AND CAREER AND THEN LOVE.
• If the 'crush' increases in intensity, you may become a victim of madness. Start taking care of yourself before it.

See that you don't have to Repent

If you want to see your love reach the ultimate end, that is, marriage, then make sure you do not tell lies to your friend. If you do it, you may have to repent. If he or she comes to know the truth, he or she will suffer a heartbreak. A heart once broken cannot be mended. Even if it is joined, the crack will remain.

Love is like a thread of silk. It does not break so easily but once it breaks, a knot forms if you try to join the two parts. And the knot is not that strong. It can break again if there is a little stretch or tension. So never tell stories or lies to your friend.

• Tell the truth your friend. Do not exaggerate to show false pride.
• Give correct information about your job and income.
• Do not spend a lot of money to show off.
• Do not give expensive gifts to your friend, boy or girl.
• Cut your coat according to your cloth. Do not show off by borrowing money from your friends.
• If you are riding a bike, don't talk about a car.

Attention!

• Don't reveal dubious dealings or actions in front of your friend.
• Keep your fantasies to yourself. Don't reveal them. 
• Don't tell your friend that you are not happy with your job or life.
• Don't try to assure your love by making a promise or taking an oath.
• Don't call your friend at midnight, no matter how anxious you are.
• Don't seek his or her advice for every little incident in your personal life.
• Don't introduce him or her to every friend or relative of yours.
• Don't indulge in give and take or borrowing and lending with your friend.
• If you love him or her very much, don't use the same words repeatedly or express your love. Instead, show it with your behaviour and attitude.
• Don't make use of 'sorry' or 'thank you' too much. It would sound too formal to both of you.
• Don't pressurize your friend to do any job or take up any course, 
• Don't try to thrust your likes or dislikes on your friend.

Judge and then Go Ahead

Before falling in love with anyone, judge him or her completely, else you won't get anything except repentance.

• Judge if your friend is interested in your wealth rather than you.
• Nowadays girls keep more than one boyfriend at a time and vice versa. So it is advisable to make a thorough investigation about the boy or girl.
• See if the boy or girl is immature or childish which could be the reason why he or she may fall in love with you.
• See if he or she praises another boy or girl in front of you. It means she loves you. At the same time, the praise of another boy or girl means he or she means he or she loves him or her as well. 
• Judge if your friend refuses to say anything about his or her family.
• Judge if he or she throws tantrums when you are late but when he or she is late himself or herself, does not even say sorry.
• See if he or she repeatedly talks against love and consider that he or she does not have any emotions of love in him or her.
• Judge if he or she does not have words to day about love.
• See whether he or she is not at all sensitive about your love.
• See if he or she is only interested in blowing your money for fun.